Intro!

No, I'm not the person with lung cancer; that would be my husband, Karl. But the focus of this blog is not only on Karl, but on our family as well -- Karl, our three young kids, and of course, myself, as well as Karl's brothers, sisters, parents, my parents and family, and our friends. Because the effects of cancer stretch far beyond the patient. The stress never belongs to just one person. The work load shifts, tension peaks, when one person is unable to do the work and live the life they're used to, and have to rely on others for day to day business. And the others, who are relied upon, feel the weight like they'd never have expected and there are times when that person is fairly sure they're going to break into a thousand little pieces.
But you can't. There are kids who need at least one functioning adult in the house; family members who need answers; people who just don't get it. I've seen this post going around facebook, about how we all want so much but a cancer patient has just one wish, to be cured. Well to hell with that. Cancer patients aren't martyrs. My husband certainly doesn't deserve what he has right now but cancer doesn't automatically make all of his other wants disappear. He wants a lot of things that aren't related to cancer at all; a bigger moniter for his computer. A rotweiler. A big shiny truck. Oh and FYI, a husband with cancer can be JUST AS OBNOXIOUS as one without. They still fart and pull the covers over your head, and they still giggle like little boys when they do. They still nag you over your hot water usage (sorry you had to take a cold shower this morning, dear!).
I guess the point is, life goes on, as it must. You have cancer. You get your treatments. You stay you, even while puking your guts out and losing all your hair and taking a small pharmacy's worth of pills each day. Maybe you can't physically do as much as you were once able to, but you adapt and find your new normal. And this goes for the family and friends as well; the new normal finds us all whether we like it or not.
Anywho, now that the ramble is done, you might be wondering, who are these people? Lemme tell you. My husband, as I said, is Karl. he was diagnosed with stage IV adenocarcinoma in May of 2010 at the age of 38 and has, thus far, outlived all expectations by a year now. I'm his wife, obviously, Toni. I'll be 29 on the 22nd of this month. We've been married 7 years this coming June, and we have three kids -- Luke is 10, Seth is 8, and Olivia is 6. All of them are smarter than we are, which makes life rather difficult since they are often able to out-logic us. Especially when we're stressed.
I work full time from home, doing data entry for a local software company. I also go to school full time, seeking a degree in graphic design. Karl is no longer able to work, but draws on disability which is a tremendous help. My parents live a mile up the road which has been an incredible help -- when we moved up here to be closer to them a year before Karl's diagnosis. we had no idea just how much we'd need to be exactly where we are.
Anywho, that is the basic run down. Caught up in the enthusiasm of a new blog, as I always am when I start one, I plan on posting daily... but we'll see how that goes.